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Gay Relationships & Dating: “Watch Out! The Dude’s A Player!” – Part Two

( Continued From Yesterday ) Tips For The Gay Dater For Screening Out “The Player-Types”Unless you have hardcore proof and evidence that your new dating partner is playing around on the side, you must be careful about making assumptions or interpretations of his behavior. That being said, the following are some signals to keep your antennae wired for as potential red flags that you may be dating a “player” and can indicate to you the importance of going slow as you get to know him, observing his behavior to get the most accurate picture of his character as possible, and communicating and “checking things out” with your partner during the dating and get-to-know-you process:  * he takes your phone number, but won’t give...

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Kim Davis Tries to Get Out of Paying $233K Legal Bill for Defying Gay Marriage 

Kim Davis is trying to get out of paying over $230,000 in legal fees to the couples who challenged her defiance of the Supreme Court’s ruling on gay marriage. Davis’ lawyers say she shouldn’t have to pay because the issue was settled by the Kentucky legislature when it did as Davis asked and removed county clerks’ names from state marriage licenses. However, lawyers for the plaintiff couples say that doesn’t change the fact that Davis violated the law, compelling them to sue. Furthermore, the controversial legislative workaround was reached as a result of the suit and the high-profile attention brought to the case. The AP reports:  Attorneys for the couples who sued Rowan County Clerk Kim Davis asked U.S. District Judge David...

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Gay Relationships: How To Be The Most Romantic Partner Your Lover Has Ever Had – Part Two

[ continued from yesterday ] If you and your guy are busy people, a quiet getaway together can be an invitation to a passionate weekend. Don’t wait for that vacation you’ve been putting off! There are gay bed-and-breakfasts all over the world; check one out.  Or think about what your boyfriend might like to do. Does he like to ski? Think about a trip to some snowy mountain that would allow him to hit the slopes. (And then there are those quiet evenings in front of the fireplace together.) Does he need time to relax after too much travel or time at work? Maybe a weekend at a cabin would fit the bill. When the Holidays come around, they have been designed with ads ...

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Gay Relationships: Building Your Risk-Taker Muscles – Part One

There is probably no greater topic of importance to gay dating and relationship success than self-esteem. How you feel about yourself definitely translates itself in everything that you think, feel, and do. Having confidence and a belief that you have value and worth gives you that extra boost you need to take risks that will improve your life. It gives you that little extra sexy appeal and makes you feel positive and attractive to yourself and others. It also helps you in making sound and responsible decisions that will ensure you’re living with integrity. Additionally, when you feel good about yourself, you’re more likely to set boundaries with others to avoid being taken advantage of and helps you feel more able to be assertive and to...

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Gay Relationships: Enhancing Intimacy In Your Life – Part 3

[ continued from yesterday ]  This is the third installment in a 3-part article series about struggles with intimacy that are relatively common in gay relationships. In Part 1 of the series, “intimacy freak-out” was defined and the reasons why gay men are prone to this phenomenon were discussed. This article will address some of the common intimacy fears that could block your potential for true connection with your partner and will offer some tips for enhancing your comfort with intimacy to help you achieve ultimate relationship bliss! The “Freak-Out” Checklist: In my training and work with gay men, I have found some common intimacy fears that can prevent us from experiencing the depths of fulfillment that love can offer. Take a look through this list ...

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Gay Relationships: Dating For The 40+ Gay Man: Seven Steps To Success – Part 1

Dating can be hard enough at times, but the situation can be made that much more challenging for those single gay men who represent the age 40 and up crowd.   In a society where youth and beauty are highly valued, many middle-aged men report feeling segregated and unappreciated in dating pools, making it difficult to meet and sustain relationships with potential dating prospects. The problem can seem even more compounded in the gay community in which the emphasis on youth and brawn is amplified, causing many mature gay men to feel undesirable and like outsiders within gay circles. They feel unwanted and that their age hinders them and limits the pool of men available to them for dating, particularly when they report being rejected by men in ...

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Gay Relationships: Fixing That Romatic Rut

It is easy for us to get stuck in ruts in relationships. That’s true whether the relationships are dating ones or long-term, committed ones. We human beings are creatures of habit.  Often we don’t like change much, especially if keeping things the same helps us feel safe. Many of us will choose safe-but-boring over new-and-possibly-better any time we have the ability to make the choice.  On the other hand, we human beings also have an inborn desire to change and grow.    When something is hurting us, or we find ourselves feeling stifled or deadened, we experience something inside of us that cries out, “There is more to life than this!” We find ourselves considering the need for change, even if...

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Gay Relationships: The Boyfriend Evaluation: Getting to Know Him – Part One

So you made it through the first date with this new guy and he’s intrigued you. You find him attractive, enjoyable to be around, and with the little bit of information you’ve been able to obtain at your first contact, he seems to meet some of your personal requirements and needs for a potential boyfriend thus far. So now what? Now you’re about to embark upon the fine art of dating and courtship. Together, the two of you will begin the process of getting to know each other better through going out on dates for fun and recreation and learning about one another in a variety of different contexts and situations. Through this relationship-building process, you’ll slowly begin forming an emotional bond while gauging if the...

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Gay Relationships: I’m “Out” – He’s Not!

( Gay Relationships: Advice Column By Dr. Brian Rzepczynski ) Dear Brian: My partner and I have been together for 20 years and are very much in love.  We are both very successful. I am out with friends and family. He is not out with his family – or at work.  We have a house together. When he is on the phone i have to remain silent so as to not be  heard.  He often gets dragged out  to events after work because nobody knows he has someone waiting for him.  When his family comes to visit – I move into a hotel for a night or a few days. I realize he is operating from a point of fear. I  want to be supportive. However – I...

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Why the Word “Marriage” Matters

“…I may yet live to see gay marriage become a reality in the United States in my lifetime. And wouldn’t that be something.” This is the end, the last post on Marriage Equality Watch. For this occasion, we thought we would resurrect a column from the first week of MEW, back in January 2008, before Prop 8, before President Obama was elected, before Mark and I were married, when it was still GLBT instead of LGBT… and far before marriage equality became a reality in all 50 states. How far we have come! In the end, it wasn’t a President or a congress that brought us to the finish line. It was all of us together as a community that fought the hard battles, day in...

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Marriage Equality Round-Up – March 3rd

Here’s our daily round-up of the marriage equality / LGBT rights stories from all around the internet. If we missed anything, let us know. Enjoy! PEOPLE: HBO has condemned comments made last month by boxer Manny Pacquiao, but said it will still broadcast his upcoming fight. full story PEOPLE: YouTube personality Hunter Avallone denies the very existence of transgender people in a new video. full story POP CULTURE: Nike has made an extra special show of support for out gay Olympic freeskier Gus Kenworthy, who the company has long sponsored. full story INTERNATIONAL: Samantha Power, the Ambassador to the United Nations, took 17 of her fellow international envoys to see the Broadway production of Fun Home, a Tony Award-winning production about a lesbian girl, her gay ...

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Marriage Equality Round-Up – February 25th

Here’s our daily round-up of the marriage equality / LGBT rights stories from all around the internet. If we missed anything, let us know. Enjoy! OPINION: Why do most representations of transgender and gender-nonconforming lives and people in pop culture and the media tend to follow specific — and narrow — narratives? full story HISTORY: President Lyndon B. Johnson requested the resignation of his longtime aide Walter Jenkins after he was arrested a second time for having sex at a YMCA near the White House, according to newly released documents. A second aide, who was revealed to be gay, was also ousted. full story POP CULTURE: The Daily Show correspondent Jessica Williams paid a visit to outrageously homophobic pastor James David Manning of Atlah Worldwide ...

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Marriage Equality Round-Up – February 18th

Here’s our daily round-up of the marriage equality / LGBT rights stories from all around the internet. If we missed anything, let us know. Enjoy! OPINION: It has become common practice for conservatives to defend legislation that enables anti-LGBT discrimination as supporting the cause of “religious liberty.” Considering most religious people actually support protections for LGBT people, this framing is misleading, and as several current state legislative fights demonstrate, unconvincing as well. full story POP CULTURE: Nike has cut ties with Manny Pacquiao in the wake of his controversial comments against marriage rights for same-sex couples. full story POP CULTURE: LGBTI campaigners are now demanding that other brands associated with the boxer also distance themselves from him, namely Foot Locker – who aired ...

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Marriage Equality Round-Up – February 3rd

Here’s our daily round-up of the marriage equality / LGBT rights stories from all around the internet. If we missed anything, let us know. Enjoy! GENERAL: A new video presented by BBC Raw sheds light on what it’s like to be asexual. full story PEOPLE: Jussie Smollett: “I am a gay man with an extremely open heart. God, I’ve never had to talk about this, so I’m trying to find the words. If I had to label myself, I would label myself as a gay man.” full story PEOPLE: Theodore Shoebat’s latest video features the unhinged antigay activist declaring that Jesus Christ would personally kill gay people with his bare hands, so gentle and merciful in his grace. “Jesus Christ took up a ...

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Marriage Equality Round-Up – January 21st

Here’s our daily round-up of the marriage equality / LGBT rights stories from all around the internet. If we missed anything, let us know. Enjoy! INTERNATIONAL: US Vice President Joe Biden has told business people at the World Economic Forum in Davos to bring do more to combat homophobia and transphobia in countries where LGBTI people face discrimination and persecution. full story POP CULTURE: Nintendo has confirmed that it is removing a plot line from a new game that allows the player to drug a lesbian woman’s drink with a magic potion. full story RELIGION: Retired Bishop V. Gene Robinson wrote a report that examines the way that Jewish and Christian traditions have become more inclusive of trans people. full story RELIGION: In ththe current ...

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Marriage Equality Round-Up – January 7th

Here’s our daily round-up of the marriage equality / LGBT rights stories from all around the internet. If we missed anything, let us know. Enjoy! HISTORY: “The Wedding Heard ‘Round the World” by Michael McConnell with Jack Baker, as told to Gail Langer Karwoski, chronicles the love story behind first same sex marriage in U.S. full story PEOPLE: 29-year-old Jossy Yendall, a finalist in the Miss Galaxy beauty pageant contest, has spoken out – to claim she was disqualified for being trans. full story PEOPLE: Rose Uscianowski, a 26-year-old from Graniteville, New York who approached Ben Carson as he was taking photos with supporters and told him he was full of shit, is speaking out. full story POP CULTURE: Netflix made a huge ...

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Marriage Equality Round-Up – October 22nd

Here’s our daily round-up of the marriage equality / LGBT rights stories that don’t warrant a full posting on the blog, or that we didn’t have time to add. We’re able to get more news and analysis to you this way every day – enjoy! PEOPLE: A former US marine who served in Iraq and Afghanistan has shared her transition online to inspire other transgender women. full story AUSTRALIA: Port Hedland, a Pilbara town known for its harsh landscape and male dominated fly-in, fly-out workforce, is an unlikely addition to a group of local councils across Australia who are using their limited legislative power to advocate for marriage equality. full story POLAND: A Polish priest who was fired by the Vatican ...

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Gay Relationships: Rejection Sucks! A Gay Guy’s Primer On Dealing With It – Part 2

( Continued From Yesterday )    Tips For Coping With Rejection: The following are some ideas to help you reframe the way you think about rejection so it doesn’t seem so unbearable. Your negative beliefs can have a strong hold over you because they’re trying to protect you against perceived threat or harm, so some of these tips might inspire an “oh please!” or “yeah right!” attitude. Let your mind be open and pick and choose those that might best fit your personality and style. View any resistance you may feel as an indication that your self-protection mechanisms may have been triggered and refuse to be held victim by them any longer. * View rejection as a success. The fact that that guy doesn’t want ...

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Marriage Equality Round-Up – October 15th

Here’s our daily round-up of the marriage equality / LGBT rights stories that don’t warrant a full posting on the blog, or that we didn’t have time to add. We’re able to get more news and analysis to you this way every day – enjoy! ARGENTINA: Diana Sacayán, a trans rights campaigner, was stabbed to death in Argentina yesterday. full story AUSTRALIA: But Labor’s proposal to return registered partnerships back to civil unions has been greeted with barely a peep from the community. full story FRANCE: For the first time, a French court has recognised a person as ‘gender neutral’. full story INDIA: As a gay Indian I am reminded every day of the violent and abusive attitude our fellow citizens ...

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Marriage Equality Round-Up – October 8th

Here’s our daily round-up of the marriage equality / LGBT rights stories that don’t warrant a full posting on the blog, or that we didn’t have time to add. We’re able to get more news and analysis to you this way every day – enjoy! POP CULTURE: Chris Burns, the assistant men’s basketball coach at Bryant University, has come out as gay, and is the nation’s first Division 1 coach to do so. full story POP CULTURE: America’s Next Top Model contestant Nyle DiMarco revealed on Twitter that he is sexually fluid. full story OPINION: When I was 14, I found the word bisexual through a Google search. I did not know you could have crushes on both girls and boys. full story CANADA: Harbaljit ...

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Caitlyn Jenner’s first Talk Show interview with Ellen [video]

IN CASE YOU MISSED IT… Caitlyn Jenner sat down with Ellen Degeneres on Tuesday in her first talk show interview since her transition. In case you missed it, Jenner reiterated that she is a Republican and also said that she only agree with gay marriage in”some cases.” Ellen challenged Caitlyn on supporting Republicans who might not support women’s and trans issues and said: < blockquote>”It’s funny because you’re still a little not on board with it,” Ellen pointed out. “No, I’m on board,” Caitlyn insisted. “It’s going to be pretty much the law of the land. So I still feel like yea, I’m ok with it. I don’t want to stand in ...

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Gay Relationships: Stop, Look, & Listen – The 3-Step Approach to Understanding Your Partner – Part One

Do you feel misunderstood by your partner? Seem to keep getting into repetitive arguments over the same things? Have hidden resentments toward him and a mountain of unmet needs? If you’re like a lot of other gay couples, chances are your listening skills might need a jump-start; and if it’s not that, then fine-tuning your ability to listen can go a long way toward bridging the gap between you and your lover and bringing about more clarity and connection in your relationship. Conflict is inevitable when you’re a couple, but how you go about negotiating it can mean the difference between cuddling on the couch together or sleeping on opposite sides of the bed when you retire for the evening. Being able to productively listen...

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Marriage Equality Round-Up – September 10th

Here’s our daily round-up of the marriage equality / LGBT rights stories that don’t warrant a full posting on the blog, or that we didn’t have time to add. We’re able to get more news and analysis to you this way every day – enjoy! HISTORY: In 1995, one year after the Clinton administration enacted Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell to address and reenforce the ban on openly gay military servicemen and women, then-representative Bernie Sanders of Vermont delivered a smack-down to then-representative Randall “Duke” Cunningham of California. full story INTERNATIONAL: A new map from Care2 shows which countries now have marriage equality. full story POP CULTURE: In a new clip from Roland Emmerich’s upcoming gay rights bio-pic Stonewall, we meet ...

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Gay Relationships: "I’m Not Good Enough For My Partner"

( Gay Relationships: Advice Column By Dr. Brian Rzepczynski ) Dear Dr. Brian:  I have a problem with my partner. We’ve been together for 8 months now, but the last 5 have been constant fighting over my behavior and character. He wants me to change and be more strong like he is, to stop being romantic and so emotional to the point I cry, to separate my personal and work lives, to not be influenced by others, and to be more talkative and have standards in my life. I have tried, but nothing seems to be enough for him. He’s talked about breaking up with me.I don’t know what to do anymore to please him and I don’t want to lose him. What should I do?"  - Backed ...

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Gay Relationships: 5 Deadly Mistakes Gay Couples Can Make – Part One

 Whether you’re just starting out in a new relationship or have been long-term partners for many years, how does a gay couple maintain their relationship over the long haul and sustain that “magical spark” that drew them together in the first place?  Relationships do require attention and focus, and this article will present five deadly mistakes that you can make that can wreak havoc in your partnership, almost ensuring conflict and unhappiness. Remedies will also be offered, and keeping these points in mind can help stave off relationship discord—and even prevent a potential breakup from ever being considered! Deadly Mistake #5: Getting into predictable, monotonous routines: Once you get into the groove of your relationship, you can begin to feel comfortable with the safety and familiarity...

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Gay Relationships: Rejection Sucks! A Gay Guy’s Primer On Dealing With It – Part 1

“Well, it was really nice meeting you, bud, but I don’t really think we’re a match. Good luck to you though!” –or- “Yeah, it was fun! I’ll call you!” –and then the call never comes. Sound familiar? We’ve all been there at one time or another. You know, that stabbing feeling of being unwanted that’s so hard to shake when it strikes. Yep—rejection!  Rejection of all forms is a natural part of being human, from being declined for a job or being refused participation in a certain club. But as a single guy on a quest for a life partner, rejection is an inescapable given in the dating world as you search for a compatible counterpart. There is no way around it! Now in this ...

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Ted Cruz Hires Anti-gay Marriage Billboard Bigots to Help Lead Presidential Campaign

Earlier this week, we told you about Dick and Betty Odgaard and their plan to place 1,000 anti-gay billboards across the country after they shut down their wedding business to avoid serving same-sex couples. The Iowa couple had hoped to place “1,000 points of light” across the nation in the form of signs reading “Marriage = 1 Man + 1 Woman,” but that lofty goal looks unlikely as they’ve managed to raise only $500 for their anti-gay crusade. The Odgaard’s paltry fundraising efforts don’t seem to have fazed their buddy Ted Cruz however, as they’ve recently been added to the Cruz campaign’s Iowa leadership team along with eight other “courageous conservatives.” “Iowa is an extraordinarily important state to...

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